In a stunning if ultimately unsurprising display of ashiness, Cardi B’s recently estranged husband Offset showed up onstage at the Rolling Loud festival to beg Cardi to take him back after he cheated on her.
Offset’s “apology” included flowers and a series of cakes that spelled out “TAKE ME BACK;” he was escorted off the stage after Cardi B expressed discomfort that he interrupted her show.
As and after the drama unfolded onstage, people on Twitter took Offset to task for his stunt, rightfully claiming that his grand gesture was more “manipulative performance of headassery” than “super effective way to apologize for sleeping around on your wife.”
No is a full sentence. it’s not a request or a challenge. It’s No. Cardi doesn’t have to take Offset back because of a grand gesture that was deliberately manipulative, disrespectful of her boundaries and took away her shine as a headliner. It’s not romantic.
— Farrah Khan (@farrahsafiakhan) December 16, 2018
I really am trying not to participate in a dragging of Offset (even tho I’m upset like I know Cardi…)
I just want us to make sure we don’t continuously romanticize manipulative, entitled behavior.
Impressionable young folks will miss important red flags.
— Brittany Packnett (@MsPackyetti) December 16, 2018
Difference between begging for forgiveness for your mistakes to your partner and putting on a show in public to pressure them into doing what you want.
If you can’t see that, it says a lot.
— Philly To The World (@CoryTownes) December 16, 2018
Some people also pointed out that it was particularly wrong of Offset to interrupt Cardi B while she was working. Cardi was the first female headliner in Rolling Loud history, and in prioritizing himself he made what should have been a professional accomplishment all about his personal relationship.
I have had someone follow me around making grand public displays after I broke up with him. It isn’t cute. It feels unsafe. And that stage is her job. You don’t harass people at work.
— The Dr. Tressie McMillan Cottom (@tressiemcphd) December 16, 2018
Women shared their stories of their own partners coming to their place of work and why workplace gestures are more controlling than romantic.
I had a coworker whose husband decided to show up at work and make a scene after she decided she was done. She was so humilated she quit her job on the spot. My employers COMPLETELY changed their security policies after the event. This is not cute, and it isn’t a joke.
— Caleb Dume (@pfunk1130) December 16, 2018
It looks like Offset’s interruption hasn’t had an effect on Cardi B’s decision to leave him, and it’s in everyone’s best interest that he learn to take an L and deescalate his attempts to make up for his infidelity.